Who am I
Not to sound too existential, but I have often wondered what I’m meant to do with my life. I have both a Hon. BA and a MA, and a passion for holistic nutrition. I could go in any number of directions, and I have, but none have brought me that hit-you-in-the-gut joy that I believe we are meant to get from life. When my son (hereon in referred to as Baby Mermy) was born, everything changed. Today, I can confidently say that I am meant to be a mama, It may not be everyone’s cup of tea, and hey, that’s all right, but I am a new, proud, happily tired, stay-at-home mama. Baby Mermy, gives me such immense joy that I cannot put it into words. I know, I’m on a blog where I must write and I cannot put into words the joy my son brings to me. Suffice to say, it’s all encompassing and flows through my body like an electric charge. It’s alive and invigorating and makes the world a wondrous place to be in.
I am also a stay-at-home mom. Yes, it is by choice. No, I’m not concerned about career advancements, etc. This is the life that I have willingly and, more importantly, contently chosen for myself. Too often, I catch myself defending my decision to be a stay-at-home mom, but I have realized that I need not explain myself. Much as in the same way I don’t challenge those who return to work, my decision to stay at home with my child should be left unchallenged. That’s it on this topic.
My new beginning
Ever since I found out I was pregnant, I have been voraciously reading parenting blogs. They have helped give me the tools to identify my parenting style and voice. Whether I agreed or disagreed with the views they presented, I learned from them and, strangely enough, developed confidence in myself as a new parent. These moms and dads opened my eyes to things I did not know about (oh my word, the trials and tribulations of getting poop stain out of baby clothes!) and helped me delve deeper into new concepts and issues (attachment parenting, etc).
When Baby Mermy was born, these blogs helped keep me alert when I was nursing for the umpteenth time during the night and fought sleep; they prevented me from having a full-blown panic attack when Baby Mermy started to gasp for fun(!); and allowed me to keep my sanity, often through laughter and a shared sense of parenthood, when I hadn’t slept, showered, or eaten in a while (that’s to say, I have no idea when I had done any of those things).
From the knowledge and wisdom shared with me via the blogger’s written word, I determined that the parenting path I would choose would include the principles of attachment parenting (as they fit with my family’s code of conduct) coupled with Montessori learning, and my own engagement with holistic nutrition, coloured by the lessons of my own upbringing, all of which I hope to share here. I can honestly say that my parenting methodology is regularly evolving, but my parenting principles are staying more or less the same.
Today, with Baby Mermy having just turned 7 months old, I feel that it’s time to give back to this wonderful community of parents by sharing my experiences and stories and hopefully, bring a smile or a contemplative hmmm to a tired, sleep-deprived mummy or daddy out there. An added bonus is that this space will become a tribute to Baby Mermy and any other children that, God willing, we will be blessed with. As he, and they, get older, I hope this blog will bring them as much joy as it brings me writing it.
What this blog is NOT
What this space is NOT is a judgemental space. As new moms, too often we are bombarded with unsolicited advice and comments and, in my opinion, most of it is bad, harmful, and/or simply annoying. In my experience, people are hell-bent on proving to me what I have or am doing wrong rather than acknowledging (or perhaps even praising – a momma needs some praise!) what I’m doing right (I’m sure there are many more that are genuinely kind and helpful in both their feedback and their praise – I unfortunately have yet to find more than a handful.) There is no manual for raising children and I believe that every mother, father, caregiver is doing her or his level best with their child. This space will allow for all that is positive to be front and centre. Yes, it is possible that I may gripe and complain about specific circumstances should the occasion call for it (and you may join me in it) but anything harmful in nature (comments, feedback, etc) will not be tolerated. Also, I’m not in the mood to read or interact with any of it.
I am certain that this space will be a continuous work-in-progress that will metamorphosis as I grow and evolve as a parent. I only hope that this blog will bring you as much enjoyment as I am getting out of writing it. Thank you for joining me here.
United in diapering,